A divorce or a break up from a long relationship is hard no matter which side of the break up you fall on. It can be devastating. How do you pick up the pieces of your life and move on? How do you deal with the emotional distress? How do you accept that your relationship is over? This book can help. Live After Your Lover Walks Out is a step-by-step tool you can use to guide you through the emotional devastation caused by a break up. It will help you “move on from a negative emotional experience to a positive emotional outcome.”

Lynda Bevan guides you through each step of the process, providing the reader with insights into emotions they are feeling. Each emotion is examined. Bevan’s tells why these emotions are present and shows the reader how to deal with them and move past them through self-examination.

This book is written in a generalized way to appeal to and be able to help the widest range of people. It’s written in 10 steps that cover everything from the initial falling apart to the new you that emerges out of the break up. It’s purposefully condensed so the reader can easily find the information they need quickly and easily. That being said there are parts I wish were expanded on.

I’m recently divorced and I found this book to be useful. It showed me that my emotions I was feeling, anger, loss, regret, are all normal. I read this book straight through but I think it would also be useful to just read each step as you are ready for it. In the About the Author, I read that Bevan is on her third marriage, so she really knows what she’s talking about because she’s been through it, twice, and she still managed to move on. I recommend this book for anyone going through a tough break up.

Reviewed on 04/07/2012 by ReviewTheBook.com Member Nicole Mahoney

Life After Your Lover Walks Out:  A Practical Guide
Author:  Lynda Bevan
Publisher:  Loving Healing Press
ISBN:  978-1-932690-26-2

Loving Healing Press is definitely the go-to publisher for all things relationship, family, personal motivation, psychology, metapsychology, trauma intervention and self help.  Life After Your Lover Walks Out is the first book in the Loving Healing Press 10 Step Empowerment Series.  Like all other Loving Healing Press books, this guide does not disappoint.

Lynda Bevan has written what may be the ultimate guide to moving forward when a long term relationship ends.  Regardless of whether you or your mate instigated the breakup, you'll be left with numerous unresolved issues and feelings, which can include anger, fear, jealousy and regret, among others.  How you resolve these issues is largely dependent on knowing the steps to a healthy resolution and taking these often tough steps forward.  This book breaks it down for people of all walks of life and levels of experience.

Step by step, the reader is led through a well planned and comprehensive series of processes.  Realistic and practical exercises take the reader through an introspective process, leading from the negative impact of a breakup to figuring out what your expectations really are, what is healthiest for you, and what your real emotions are telling you.  The reader will understand what motivates us into healthy/unhealthy relationships, making expectations realistic and giving a sense of closure to the terminated relationship.

Purposely written in a compact style, the book can easily be read from cover to cover in just a couple of hours.  It has a workable, non-overwhelming style that can be used by anyone, and would make a great therapeutic tool in any counseling practice.  Highly recommended.

Reviewed on 07/31/2010 by ReviewTheBook.com Member LAURI COATES